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Lisay Chizmar's avatar

This resonates with me so much. My husband and I were both in our forties when we had our first and only son. I had 12 weeks of FMLA and a short term disability that covered 60% of my salary for four weeks (I had a C-section). My employer paid me two weeks maternity leave, so I suppose I should be grateful. My husband received 8 weeks of paternity leave with full pay. He wanted to be home and to help. While I struggled with post-partum depression I made every excuse to get out of the house for an hour or two each day while he watched our son. He sleep-trained our son at 8 weeks while I slept for several hours. He did laundry, washed dishes, fed our son, cooked and ordered groceries. He was and continues to be a wonderful partner. If he didn't have paternity leave I would have drowned. Men must be a part of early child-rearing and must be given the time to do so.

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Katherine Craig's avatar

1000% would not have survived having twins if my husband didn’t have an 8 week parental leave that he extended to 10. Literally. I would not have been able to do it lol. Thank God he was there. Also, parental leave is so important for bonding! My husband tells all his male friends that they should take a parental leave because caring for his infants day & night helped him really feel connected to them. Parental leave is so important!!

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